Caregiver Comfort Kit Part 1

Apr 5

I vividly remember the oncologist telling me that one of the side effects of chemotherapy was fatigue.

Fatigue.

When chemo finally started, it hit me like Mike Tyson. For nearly two days I couldn’t wake up. not the day of but about day 3…which luckily I had thought to time for the weekends.

So my husband—and his mom who flew in from Maryland—and his aunt—who flew in from Maryland made a schedule to try to keep the wheels on our bus for the kids.

And that is the story. That is Backyard Breasties mission in a nutshell. Make sure nurse navigators know that “fatigue” needs more details if the Breastie is a momma.

That “just one year of therapy” lands in the middle of travel soccer seasons, holiday shopping, and for me…seed starting season.

It was devastating to think that I would miss a whole year of gardening thanks to a few months of treatment.

I was working too. My boss actually accused me of not being as sharp at my job since chemo.

You think?

So caregivers are keeping appointments straight. Charging phones. Signing permission slips and updating emergency contacts. Making dinner, or at least pretending they have a dinner plan. Picking kids up from aftercare. They are answering texts, carrying the worry quietly, and trying very hard not to make their own fear the biggest thing in the room.

And because they love the person in treatment, they often disappear into the background. Read about Napthalie’s husband’s story.

At Backyard Breasties, we talk a lot about survivors, gardens, and the strange heartbreak of watching the life around you need care when you barely have enough energy for your own body. But we also know this: helping caregivers helps survivors too.

Sometimes the most useful gift is not grand or glamorous. It is not a silver bullet. It is just one small thing that makes a Tuesday a little easier.

A travel mug that does not leak all over the passenger seat on the way to an early appointment. An extra-long charger or power bank for the waiting room corner where the outlets are always somehow in the worst place possible. A car organizer so the hand sanitizer, snacks, receipts, paperwork, and lip balm are not all living loose on the floorboards like lost french fries.

Sometimes it is meal prep containers, because everybody still has to eat, even when nobody has the bandwidth to think about food or even making an uber eats order. Sometimes it is a grocery list pad stuck on the fridge so the caregiver does not have to keep thirteen mental tabs open at once. Sometimes it is freezer labels, because chemo brain and caregiver brain are both real and that mystery soup is not getting less mysterious with time.

And then there are the little things that say, very gently, I see you too.

A journal. A neck pillow. A heating pad. A tea that feels like a breath instead of a task. An obnoxius campchair that means you return from waiting rooms with only the germs you brought with you.

We also love a practical morale booster around here. Not because a cute mug can fix cancer-world. It cannot. But because the right mug, a stash of snacks, an easy planner, or a little notepad for appointments can make someone feel just a tiny bit more steady. And sometimes tiny is what gets you through.

If you are building a care package for a caregiver, you do not have to make it fancy. You just have to make it thoughtful.

Think in categories:
Something useful for waiting through chemo (my husband had to sign into meetings virtually for this BEFORE Covid shutdowns)
meal planning

Something for entertaining children whose “default parent” may be the one in treatment.
something calming,
something that helps them feel less alone.

ThThey deserve support that is practical, comforting, and honest.

Our Caregiver Comfort Kit is built with that in mind. It is for the people doing the driving, the remembering, the comforting, and the holding-it-all-together work that nobody sees enough.

Because when you are stressed, you don’t know what you need. But most of us here at Backyard Breasties HAVE been there.

For my part, I cannot overstate the value of a good travel mug. I remember studying abroad many moons ago. I spent half my childhood saving for that trip. I just knew I was going to Spain. I diligently stuffed my baby sitting money into envelopes and shoved them into the back of my dresser. 5 years later I sent one of those poster post cards off to AFS. And you know what they said? They said choose between Venezuela and …I don’t even remember what the other country was. But in a fit of ridiculous teenager packing, I tucked in my favorite mug.

It is now my number one recommendation for kids going abroad and cancer caregivers sitting shotgun for chemo infusions. The nurses are helpful sure but sometimes…when they come in with their haz-mat outfits and their tackle boxes the last thing a caregiver wants in ginger ale in a hospital cup.

They just don’t pass the vibe check. This will be the start of a series of a sort. As the year goes by I will add in more Breastie reviewed items. Until then…Here is a general list. And a link to my very favorite travel mug. Nothing saves ice like this mug. The handle makes it easy to hold and easy to clip and go. The rubber bottom means it is whisper silent every time you set it down and doesn’t leave a ring.

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Caregiver Comfort Kit Part 1

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